Dining out requires codes of behavior that not only includes our everyday table manners but how we treat the wait staff, how we tip, how and when we arrive, and more. There are so many “do’s and don’ts” to list but here are a few that I trust will come in handy:
- Don’t treat the expected time to be seated as an exact science in an extremely busy restaurant especially on the weekends or any major holiday. Survey the restaurant and be prepared to wait an extra 15 – 20 minutes from the time the greeter told you.
- A communal table is not an invitation to make new friends. Don’t eavesdrop on other conversations and add your commentary.
- You don’t need to Instagram every plate of food. Leave your phone off the table and challenge yourself to engage in conversation other than the weather.
- If you have children choose a kid-friendly restaurant. Don’t assume that everyone will find your kids as adorable as you do. Take a chance in having someone tell you how polite your children are as oppose to how noisy and disruptive they are.
- When dining in a group, do not have the servers split the check 20 different ways. It is inconsiderate and time-consuming to run 20 different cards (I use 20 as an exaggeration). Have one person, whose doesn’t run the risk of their card being rejected, offer their card and electronically transfer the cash to them while in the restaurant. Also, come with your cash on hand; a few five and one dollars bills will suffice along with some twenties.
- Always leave a cash tip when possible. When leaving the tip on a card the server does not get that right away and a portion of it goes to the restaurant. Your server will appreciate you being thoughtful.
- Try not to linger at a busy restaurant after you finished your meal. Be considerate of those who you see waiting for a table.
- If you show up at 12:45 am to a restaurant that closes at 1 am. What is your next move? Do not order food knowing that the restaurant closes in 15 minutes. There is nothing worse than an angry chef and wait staff.
- Having dessert should be a group decision, not a solo option. Don’t be selfish and expect your group to wait around while you order and finish dessert. If possible, take it with you.
- If you extend a dinner invite, arrive at the restaurant first so that you can greet your guest.
- Let your guest order first and order the same number of courses as your guest, even if you have to pick at an unwanted course. Never let your guest eat alone.
- A closed menu signals the wait staff that you are ready to order.
- For a business or formal dinner, set up payment method ahead of time if you are hosting. It can be awkward trying to add up the tip in front of your guest.
- Don’t reach across the table to sample your companions’ food. Ask first, and then pass your plate to them.
- Don’t start a business conversation before the conclusion of the entrée.
- Complete your meal when everyone else does. Time yourself.
- If you drop your utensil bring it to the attention of the wait staff and ask for another.
I hope that this helps to increase your restaurant etiquette I.Q. Please feel free to connect with me by leaving your comments on this post.
Happy dining!
